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Dedeker Winston was raised to be a wholesome Christian conservative, but later opted to be a a sex-positive polyamory activist, relationship coach, and nude model. She currently provides one-on-one coaching services for people transitioning into non-monogamy and is one of the hosts of the Multiamory podcast. She has been sought out as an expert for Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Newsweek, Vice, Bustle, and also appeared on the FOX television show Utopia. Her book, The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love (Skyhorse Publishing), debuted earlier this year. Please visit Dedeker Winston to learn more.

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A Starting Point for Setting Personal Boundaries

Everyone has personal boundaries -- physical, mental, and emotional.

Remember the terms and conditions you agreed to when you signed up for Facebook? Oh, you don’t? You mean you just scrolled to the bottom and clicked “Agree” without reading the 3,500 words of legalese? If you are like everyone else, chances are that you didn’t read Facebook’s terms and conditions, you haven’t given them a second thought since then,...

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Adding a Third to Your Relationship

The More the Merrier...Maybe?

The First Step to Adding a Third to Your Relationship: Don’t Do It Yes, I said it. Don’t add a third to your relationship. “But you’ve been in triad relationships before!” you may cry. You certainly know a lot about my personal life, and yes, I’ve been in a number of triads, both MFM and FFM. It wasn’t easy, but...