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Phoebe Philips, (known as "Phi" to her friends) is a freelance blogger who initially gained popularity on FetLife as @phi-is-me. She writes a combination of smut, comedy, introspective essays and short stories on everything from kink, sex, and relationships to polyamory from the monogamous perspective to personal growth and politics. In a past life, she wrote sex toy reviews for AVN Magazine and co-hosted a kink-related podcast. Phi's public blog at ohthatphi.wordpress.com was recognized as one of the Top 100 Sex blogs of 2016 (clocking in at number 27) by mollysdailykiss.com, and her erotica has been featured on kinkweekly.com, a weekly online magazine for the kink community. In her free time she enjoys cooking, binge-watching Star Trek (all iterations), and lavishing attention on her two cats. She'll probably write a book someday. Visit Oh, That Phi for more information.

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Is your own attitude cockblocking you?

Is your own attitude cockblocking you?

Three signs that your approach toward women might be killing your online dating mojo and making it hard for other guys to catch a break... You'll see it on just about any relationship advice forum with regular frequency. "What am I doing wrong? What is it people WANT out of online dating services?" I'm going to start with the caveat...