Category: Kink

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What Every Sub Needs to Know Before Play

You Deserve to Be Heard and Cared For...

You know where you're meeting your play partner; you know what you're supposed to wear or bring. When you're prepping for a scene, make these mental notes, too! You are not greedy. Or maybe you are. Maybe that’s one of the things you like to hear, that you’re a greedy little slut. But you are not any more greedy than the...

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How to Get Your Partner to be More Kinky

Enjoy the Kinky Side of Life

So you’re a kinkster, and you’ve found a wonderful person that you want to date. There’s just one small problem: they’re not exactly kinky. Don’t abandon ship just yet! Here are some strategies for helping to introduce your partner to your kinkier side, and helping them find theirs. Be specific. Look, “kinky” is a broad category. It covers everything from...

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Public Fetish or Private Kink – Who Cares What People Think

Kinky Fetish Us

A friend of mine explored the public fetish club scene in quite some detail some years ago. He was one of the players who would occasionally direct a “performance” in the play area. He became part of a group of who would dress outrageously to gain entry and be around other like minded people. Fetish clubs are known to be...

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How To Be A Good Girl

A Good Girl

If you are femme-identified, and you lean toward the submissive side, “good girl” has the potential to be a powerful aphrodisiac. Whether it’s offered up gaspingly in response to your oral sex skills, or whispered in your ear when you get back from a long day at work, “good girl” can be delightful to hear. (NOTE: if you are a...

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12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do

Submissive Reading

Whether you’re in a 24/7 dynamic with your submissive, or you just want to keep your sexy dynamic on their mind until your date next week, it’s not uncommon for a dominant to give a submissive a task to complete. You can’t be around your submissive all the time, and frankly, it would probably be pretty unhealthy if you were, but...

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Homework for Your Sub

Submissive Self-Care

For those among us with negative associations with schoolwork, the idea of bringing homework into a BDSM relationship might be cringe-worthy. I’m asking you to set aside that reflexive instinct and open your eyes to a world of possibilities. Homework isn’t just for the overbearing teacher and delinquent student, it’s popular with dominants of all stripes who want to exercise...

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BDSM 101: Basic Terminology

For those newly exposed the world of BDSM, learning and understanding all the terms and acronyms associated with this diverse lifestyle can be daunting.

Whether reading the SwingTowns Non-Monogamy Lifestyle Blog, or socializing with kinksters and fetishists in the SwingTowns community, the numerous terms and acronyms associated with the BDSM lifestyle can be intimidating to the uninitiated. Are you one of those readers who wish someone would just give you a crash course on basic BDSM terminology? SwingTowns is here to help! Bondage/Discipline—Dominance/Submission—Sadism/Masochism B/D—D/S—S/M BDSM...