‘Squirting’ is synonymous with female ejaculation, and has been the subject of much scrutiny and controversy in sexology for many years now. This is, of course, despite being nothing new to women. Female ejaculation has been noted in history dating back to 300 BC in the writings of Aristotle and Hippocrates. In ancient Asia, female ejaculation was common and mentioned in many Chinese Taoist texts. People also believe that the Kama Sutra, an ancient Indian Hindu text, included references to it.
Yet somehow, some people lose their minds when it comes to squirting and its validity today.
So what’s the big deal anyway?
What is Squirting?
It’s easy to understand when a cis male ejaculates because semen is visually and physiologically distinct. This makes it dissimilar to any other bodily fluid, whether male or female. However, the vast variation in volume and consistency of female ejaculate, along with its shared exit path with urine, often leads people to dismiss it as an urban legend.
The Role of Arousal and the G-Spot
For cis women, the urge to urinate can arise during sex, influenced by various factors. These include the level of arousal, the type of stimulation used, and which erogenous zone is triggered. This urge is typically attributed to arousing the G-spot (named after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg), but it can send a woman into a panic from fear of embarrassing herself.
However, this is a perfectly normal sensation, and it doesn’t usually mean that you’re going to urinate. The G-spot is exactly what needs to be aroused for optimal ejaculation. There is speculation about an anterior fornix erogenous zone (A-zone) located on the front wall of the vagina above the cervix. When stimulated, this zone can produce rapid lubrication and arousal.
The Science Behind Female Ejaculation
Skene glands, named after Scottish gynecologist Alexander Skene, are located around the lower end of the female urethra. They contribute to female ejaculation. Experts often refer to these glands as the ‘female prostate.’ During arousal, the tissue surrounding the area becomes engorged with blood. Upon sufficient arousal and orgasm, the Skene glands fill up and can ejaculate a varying amount of fluid. This fluid’s flow can range from a slight drip to that of a firehose. It is mostly clear and slightly milky, and has only a faint smell and taste.
The Role of Prostatic-Specific Antigen (PSA)
Studies indicate that the ejaculate carries an enzyme called prostatic-specific antigen (PSA), commonly found in male ejaculate and produced by the prostate. Researchers believe that PSA in female ejaculate originates from the Skene glands. It appears that some women have reduced glands or none at all, which explains why some women are able to squirt and others aren’t.
What Isn’t Squirting?
Squirting is not fictitious, nor is it disgusting or abnormal. It is often described as female incontinence by those who don’t know any better, which is incredibly insulting. Some women can restrain the expulsion while some are unable to stop it, but it is not the result of a disorder or abnormality. Above all, IT IS NOT PEE, and anyone who has ever been in the same room as it will tell you the same.
How I Learned to Squirt
After years of seeing it in porn, I became fascinated with squirting and was determined to learn how to do it. As a scientist, I naturally turned to research. I looked for information about female ejaculation before attempting it, seeking tips on how to proceed. The consensus was to arouse the G-spot and spend ample time on stimulation. So I got plenty of towels under me, used the recommended Njoy Pure Wand and Magic Wand and released as many inhibitions as I could while waiting anxiously for the result as I came.
I orgasmed a few times, and instead of giving in to the instinct to ‘hold everything in,’ I tried pushing out. But absolutely nothing was on the towels except for a tiny drip that ran down the swell of my ass. Squirting always seemed very ‘magical’ to me, so I approached it with only partial confidence. When it didn’t work the first time, I felt discouraged.
Fluid-Proof Sheets and Partner Assistance
Upon reflection, I realized that I simply wasn’t comfortable. How can anyone focus on an explosive orgasm whilst lying upon a mound of towels, yet still worrying about destroying the mattress? Irritated at the thought of taking my roadshow to the bathtub, I discovered fluid-proof sheets and my world changed completely. I also found a lot of useful tips on how to squirt from the blog of School of Squirt. I also decided that everything is more fun with a friend so my husband and I teamed up to attempt squirting one more time.
With a pillow under my ass to have better access to my G-spot, he slowly started warming me up in order to arouse the Skene glands and we used the same two toys as before. He knelt between my legs facing me as he massaged my G-spot with the Pure Wand while I vibrated my clit. Compared to the first time that I tried squirting, I was much more at ease with the situation because I wasn’t worried about damaging anything, and most of all – I didn’t feel like Little Miss Muffet lying on a pile of junk.
Ease and Technique
As I neared orgasm, I concentrated on relaxing my mind. Upon reaching the orgasm threshold, I pushed hard with my vaginal muscles. This intense effort led to a powerful climax, causing me to start screaming. My husband suddenly started excitedly exclaiming things like, “Oh fuck YES, oh my, this is SO FUCKING HOT!” and I realized – it was happening. I did it. I fucking drenched him, and I’ve never cum so hard in my life. The fluid was clear and slightly milky in parts, with no smell whatsoever. I then went to the bathroom and urinated a full bladder, so I know what I squirted was ejaculate. I immediately felt like a badass.
What’s It Like to Squirt?
Squirting orgasms are obviously a bit different from ‘standard’ orgasms. Many women find them to be incredibly intense, longer-lasting, and more satisfying. You may need more time, effort, and focus to achieve them, especially until you gain more experience. Sometimes you don’t realize you’re squirting except for the intense heat from the liquid on your ass; and other times inhuman and barbaric sounds escape your lips from how powerful the orgasm is. It sort of feels like a water balloon exploding as it bounces around a room. It really is the ultimate release.
Who Can Squirt?
It’s crucial not to make generalizations about squirting. Remember, not everyone who is female can squirt, and not everyone who can squirt identifies as female. In a perfect world, every female-identifying individual would have the ability to squirt on demand if they desired. However, we know that this isn’t the reality. Experts have limited knowledge about the Skene glands and the exact process of cis female ejaculation. Consequently, creating a checklist for the Perfect Squirting Candidate is a challenging task. My best advice: keep trying until it works because a great orgasm every time is an excellent consolation prize in my book.
If You Can’t, Are You Broken?
No, of course not, you are absolutely not broken! Some women may be unable to squirt due to various physical limitations. However, this isn’t always the case – sometimes, the lack of ability is simply because they haven’t learned how. With the amount of discouragement and censorship (such as the UK banning female ejaculation in porn in 2014), it’s not hard to believe that women aren’t getting the information and support that they need to experiment with and nurture their own gift. Though I strongly urge you; if you do know what to do and it still hasn’t happened, do not give up! Sometimes it can take several tries depending on the circumstances, your frame of mind, and the tools you may be using.
Want to Squirt Like a Porn Star?
Everyone is different, but a good place to start is with your favorite G-spot stimulating toy or partner. Careful stimulation and arousal of the G-spot (2-3 inches up the anterior vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and urethra; rough patch of tissue) should begin to fill the Skene glands with fluid as the body becomes more excited. A partner can reach better than you, but a well-crafted toy can also do the trick. Toys with a curved design and a bulbous head will likely ‘hit the spot.’ The more stimulation that occurs for the G-spot and A-zone, the better the chances of ejaculating. It’s also possible to ejaculate from strictly clitoral stimulation as well.
When you feel the moment upon you, try your best to clear your mind, free yourself, and literally let go. If nothing happens right away, don’t be afraid to push with your pelvic floor muscles to stimulate ejaculation. Prepare for anything; it might be a trickle or it might shoot clear across the room! No one way works the same for everyone; so don’t be afraid to experiment and you’ll be gushing with joy in no time.
Above all, enjoy yourself!
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