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Interview with Janet W. Hardy, Author of The Ethical Slut

Interview with Author Janet Hardy

We at SwingTowns are thrilled to share with our readers an exclusive interview from Janet W. Hardy, co-author of the bestselling book The Ethical Slut. SwingTowns: Besides being sex educator, you are also the author/co-author of eleven books, including the bestselling book The Ethical Slut. When did you decide to become a sex educator and author, and why this profession? Janet...

Sex

How to Choose Lube (Video)

Lube matters.

There are four main categories of lubricant: water-based, silicone, silicone and water-based hybrids, and oil-based lubricants (those are usually creamy). So, how do you choose which lube to use? Water-Based Lube If you're having sex with someone who has a vagina, or if you have a vagina, start with a water-based. Even if you lubricate just fine, a water-based lubricant...

Swingers

What Unicorns Want Couples To Know

Unicorn

“Unicorn” is slang for a single, generally bi-sexual female who participates in swinger lifestyle. Women like this are referred to as unicorns because they are very rare and hard to find. Being a coveted unicorn is a blessing and a curse. I love having the freedom and confidence to enjoy sex with whomever I choose. I love that I have...

Sex

How to Get the Sex You Crave: Communication Style and Relationships

Take a leap. Nothing will change unless your communication does.

So you’re having trouble getting what you want sexually from your partner(s), huh? Or maybe the honeymoon phase has ended and you’re realizing that in order to rekindle the sex flame, you need to start talking more openly about trying something new? I can’t tell you how many people, couples and individuals, have come into my psychotherapy office with this...

Dating

A Starting Point for Setting Personal Boundaries

Everyone has personal boundaries -- physical, mental, and emotional.

Remember the terms and conditions you agreed to when you signed up for Facebook? Oh, you don’t? You mean you just scrolled to the bottom and clicked “Agree” without reading the 3,500 words of legalese? If you are like everyone else, chances are that you didn’t read Facebook’s terms and conditions, you haven’t given them a second thought since then,...

Sex

Guys! You Should All Be Using Sex Toys… (And Here’s Why!)

Guys! You Should All Be Using Sex Toys…

Sex toys are just awesome. There are no ifs or buts (although maybe some butts) about it. Unfortunately, we live in a world where you talk about using a vibrator, and no one flutters an eyelid; but mention you like pounding a Fleshlight, and people think you are weird. But I’m here to set the record straight. There is absolutely...

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What To Do When You Feel Like A Third Wheel

The stirring of the old green eyed monster...

The truth is, monogamy doesn't come naturally to most humans. Oh, of course we try; we try hard. But all of human history is littered with the failures of enforced monogamy. We cheat, sneak behind our partner’s back, have one night stands, go on business trips, and operate under a “don't ask don't tell” policy, all the while struggling with...

Kink

What is Squirting; and How I Taught Myself to Do It

What is Squirting; and How I Taught Myself to Do It...

‘Squirting’ is synonymous with female ejaculation, and has been the subject of much scrutiny and controversy in sexology for many years now. This is, of course, despite being nothing new to women. Female ejaculation has been noted in history dating back to 300 BC in the writings of Aristotle and Hippocrates. In ancient Asia, female ejaculation was common and therefore...

Kink

Epic Playtime: Sex Toys You Need to Be Using

Epic Playtime: Sex Toys you need to be using...

Sex toys can help to spice up your relationship if things have gone stale, or perhaps just to add in some different sensations you hadn’t thought of before. I’ll go over a few of my favorite sex toys that you need to be using in your sex life, whether it’s by yourself, with a partner or in group play. Let’s...

Kink

Beginner’s Guide to Sex Parties

Don't Be Creepy

I recently took a date to their first sex club, and that experience helped me see the place through a beginner’s eyes all over again. I remember how scared I was before my first time; I asked a series of questions in an online forum, everything from what to wear to what to bring with me. From talking to my...