Sex toys are just awesome. There are no ifs or buts (although maybe some butts) about it. Unfortunately, we live in a world where you talk about using a vibrator, and no one flutters an eyelid; but mention you like pounding a Fleshlight, and people think you are weird. But I’m here to set the record straight. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using or enjoying a sex toy. And if you are not enjoying them, then here are a few reasons why you should at least give them a try!
But first, I just want to quickly address something. Whilst I’ve used ‘guys’ in the title, I fully appreciate that most of what I am about to say goes for EVERYBODY. Regardless of how you identify, sex toys do not have a gender. Gender and sexuality are such a fluid spectrum, that it isn’t simply a black and white case of ‘toys for him’ and ‘toys for her’. A vibrator is a vibrator. A dildo is a dildo. Unfortunately, most retailers are still a bit behind, and seem to believe their only customers are cis/hetero folks. Regardless of how you identify, there should be something for everyone here.
Make Solo Masturbation More Enjoyable
There is absolutely nothing wrong with using only your hand during masturbation. I mean, it’s how we all learned and it does feel pretty good! But popping a sex toy into the mix can turn an ‘ok’ masturbation session into a ‘HOLY CRAP, THIS IS AMAZING’ session. Whether it’s by simply throwing in a masturbator into the mix, or wanking with a butt plug in; the additional sensations you can achieve can be mind-blowing. So, take some time out and explore what you like!
Sex Toys Really Do Enhance Sex
Some of the best experiences I’ve had with sex toys, come from using them with a partner. Cock rings can help give stronger and firmer erections, and are easy to store discreetly. Using a stroker on a partner (or having one used on you) is a completely different sensation to doing it yourself. Even something simple like a small butt plug, worn during intercourse can help you achieve a bigger and stronger orgasm. The beauty of it all is that there really is no right or wrong way. It’s all about the fun you’ll have experimenting together, and seeing what works for you.
Massaging the Prostate Is Just… AWESOME
This one is very specific, but for those lucky enough to have a prostate, you really should take some time out to get to know it. This small gland located a little way up the anal passage is essentially pleasure central. When stimulated, it can lead to some super-powerful orgasms. You can stimulate with a finger, or use one of the hundreds of prostate massagers on the market. Some vibrate, some don’t; find out what you prefer. For some people, the elusive prostate orgasm can take time to achieve. But even so, when stimulated during masturbation or even sex, it helps firm up those erections. The orgasms aren’t so bad either! Just remember, when exploring anything anally, remember to use LOTS OF LUBE, take your time and be patient!
A Vibrator Can be Everyone’s Best Friend
I say ‘can’ because vibrations don’t always work for everybody, but when they do; hallelujah! If you had told me that one of my favorite ever sex toys was going to be a vibrating wand massager, I would have told you to take a hike. But it’s true. And this is why it’s important to remember that sex toys don’t have gender. A vibrator can be used by anyone; whether it’s to stimulate a clitoris, or the penis, or the g-spot/p-spot. Just make sure the item is safe for usage (flared base for anal) and it’s made from BODY-SAFE materials (materials that can be safely be sanitized/cleaned between uses such as silicone etc.)
And now, my final thoughts…
I’ve been reviewing and using sex toys for many years now. And I really do love them. Whether I’m using them solo, or with a partner. I think everyone should be able to enjoy sex toys freely and without judgement, because there is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with using sex toys. It’s not creepy, or weird. Millions of people around the world are using and enjoying sex toys. And you should be too. But remember, you don’t ‘have’ to use toys either. That’s perfectly acceptable too. And if you decide to try, and you don’t like it, or it doesn’t work for you; that’s OK too. You are not broken! We are all different and enjoy different things. Just have fun, that’s the main thing.