There’s something so fulfilling that comes with pleasing your partner through oral sex. And, considering the fact that the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to experience a more satisfying orgasm, oral sex is a guaranteed way to make sure she feels good. In fact, with the right oral sex techniques, you can help her have the best orgasm of her life. Let’s talk about some tips to drive her wild.
7 Oral Sex Techniques to Try with the Woman in Your Life
Instead of just laying her down and going for it, try some of these expert-level techniques to really drive her wild.
1. Create Anticipation
Orgasming is a very mental experience. For most women, it’s even as much mental as it is physical.
She needs time to get in the mood and to relax. That’s why a big part of cunnilingus, which is the act of performing oral sex on a woman, lies in the anticipation. This means that you should refrain from the urge to dive right for the clitoris. Save that little surprise for later on.
Instead, start by teasing her a little bit.
Make out first.
Touch the labia (the lips of the vagina).
Massage her gently.
Play with her breasts and nipples.
All of these zones are highly sensitive for most women, so touch lightly. Start by licking, circling, or stroking, and then try alternating between all three. This experience should be very arousing for you both.
2. Explore Those Erogenous Zones
The best way to build that anticipation you already have going is by exploring her many erogenous zones.
Give some attention to her neck, inner thighs, and pelvic area. Kiss, lick, or gently nibble on these spots as you start heading down her body. Use your hands to explore other areas, like the butt, scalp, wrists, and back.
Start out with a full-body experience to engage all her senses and help her to be present, right where you are.
3. Find out What She Likes
Do you know what your woman actually likes, or are you just basing your decisions on prior experiences? Figuring out what she likes is the first and most crucial step to helping her achieve orgasm.
For some women, the base of the clitoris holds everything you need to keep driving her wild. Others are looking for more direct stimulation. Still, other women say light touching off to one side feels nicer.
Spend some time exploring the vaginal area with your fingers to find her favorite spots. Figure out the places and types of touch that really get her going. If she’s feeling up for it, you can also include some additional play, like penetration, to help her come more quickly.
4. Spread the Lips
Once she’s turned on and feeling good, you can try exposing the clit for a more intense sensation and ultimate orgasm. This is best done by using your hands to spread the vaginal lips. You could also use this opportunity to try putting in a finger or two (or three).
The key here is to go slowly and gently. Allow her body language and sounds to lead the way.
One incredible way to up the ante is by using your fingers to stroke her G-spot, while still using your tongue to give the clit some attention. The G-spot is another highly erogenous zone, located about 3 inches inside the vagina. You can reach it with a curling motion of your fingers. It should feel slightly different from the rest of the vagina and is totally full of nerves.
5. Breathe
While you spend time giving oral sex, take the time to use the power of your breath. Breathing hot, moist air onto the clit and around the vagina can increase the sensations of the experience tremendously. Not only does it provide something new for the sense, but your breath can also help promote blood flow to the entire genital region.
Breath out through your mouth slowly, lick the inner and outer folds and experiment with blowing air directly onto her clit. When approached the right way, your breath can be used to make each sensation much more intense than the one before it.
6. Be Consistent
While it’s fun to experiment with oral sex and try different moves to get her in the mood, there is something about consistency.
If she’s loving what you’re doing, don’t change things up.
You’re not sure she is? Ask.
If she seems to be enjoying herself, keep the rhythm and movement steady. Switching up the speed or technique too often can be distracting and make it harder for her to get going.
7. Don’t go too Hard
Many men make the mistake of going too hard or too fast. That’s because they often base their approach to oral sex on their own preferences.
However, female anatomy and preferences are quite different. She’s more likely to enjoy something a little slower.
Start with gentle licking before covering more surface area, and imagine yourself licking ice cream that’s dripping down a cone.
AÂ 2017 study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found women prefer certain techniques, like changing upstrokes (up and down, then circling), circles around the clit, or repeated rhythmic motions were the most effective for leading to female orgasm.
Other Oral Sex Techniques for an Optimal Experience
Some other techniques you can try while giving oral sex include licking the clit in different directions or gently sucking on it between licks and strokes. Before you suck on it though, make sure to ask as this can be painful for some.
If she’s into anal play, comply by all means. You can alternate cunnilingus with rimming.
Whatever you do, don’t be afraid to experiment. Take this opportunity to explore her body, and make sure to take it slow and tune in to the signs. She might start shivering, moaning, or breathing heavily. If she does, just keep doing what you’re doing.
Oral sex Positions
Oral sex can be a work out; so don’t be afraid to reposition yourself or change things up if they get stale. To make things easier on your neck, place a pillow under her butt to raise the hips. Changing the position of your body can create different sensations by stimulating different areas. It depends on how long she needs to orgasm, of course.
The most common positions for giving oral sex include: on your knees, from the side, from behind and, of course, face sitting.
We’ll explore them in our final section.
Knees
Giving oral sex on your knees is arousing regardless of the receiver’s gender. For extra clit exposure, don’t forget to spread the lips.
From the Side
Also known as the Kivin method, this is where the receiver lies on her back. Your body is perpendicular to hers. This position gives the potential of accessing more sensitive areas and offers more stimulation to the vulva as well as a new angle.
From Behind
She takes a doggy-style position, you get behind her, and so it goes. If she likes rimming, this is the perfect position for that.
Face Sitting
This one hardly needs an introduction. It gives a lot of access to her body and provides you with a great angle, from which you can grab her butt or breasts.
Sitting in a Chair
This is a rare one you can try. You have easy access from below with her legs to the sides of the chair.
