Tag: consent

Kink

Think Before You Kink: Things To Consider Before You Get Kinky

The 5W's of Kink

Delving into kinky play with non-monogamous partners can be both exciting and risky. Whether you are playing very casually or with partners you know very well, there are so many things to consider. It’s common knowledge that communication is the key to keeping kink safe, sane and consensual. While spontaneity can be fun, when it comes to kink, you might...

Dating

A Starting Point for Setting Personal Boundaries

Everyone has personal boundaries -- physical, mental, and emotional.

Remember the terms and conditions you agreed to when you signed up for Facebook? Oh, you don’t? You mean you just scrolled to the bottom and clicked “Agree” without reading the 3,500 words of legalese? If you are like everyone else, chances are that you didn’t read Facebook’s terms and conditions, you haven’t given them a second thought since then,...

Kink

Party Planning: Getting Ready for Your First Sexy Play Party Experience!

Equal Opportunity Lovers - Pleasure knows no Sex, Race, Ethnicity, Religion, Sexual Orientation or Body Shape.

So, it’s finally time – you’re at the point where you’re ready to check out that swingers party, or BDSM club, or sexy event that you’ve been dreaming about. Are you nervous? I hope you are, at least a little bit, because that means that you want it to go well - you want to make sure that you enjoy...

Kink

What Every Sub Needs to Know Before Play

You Deserve to Be Heard and Cared For...

You know where you're meeting your play partner; you know what you're supposed to wear or bring. When you're prepping for a scene, make these mental notes, too! You are not greedy. Or maybe you are. Maybe that’s one of the things you like to hear, that you’re a greedy little slut. But you are not any more greedy than the...

Kink

How to Get Your Partner to be More Kinky

Enjoy the Kinky Side of Life

So you’re a kinkster, and you’ve found a wonderful person that you want to date. There’s just one small problem: they’re not exactly kinky. Don’t abandon ship just yet! Here are some strategies for helping to introduce your partner to your kinkier side, and helping them find theirs. Be specific. Look, “kinky” is a broad category. It covers everything from...

Kink

12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do

Submissive Reading

Whether you’re in a 24/7 dynamic with your submissive, or you just want to keep your sexy dynamic on their mind until your date next week, it’s not uncommon for a dominant to give a submissive a task to complete. You can’t be around your submissive all the time, and frankly, it would probably be pretty unhealthy if you were, but...

Sex

What To Look For in a Casual Sex Partner

Wanna Hookup?

Finding a compatible sex partner isn’t the easiest task, even with hookup culture being predominantly popular at this moment in history. Casual sex nowadays can take many forms and is variable in every relationship, meaning there’s no cookie cutter way to having a successful casual partner. However, there are some qualities to look for in potential suitors that will help...

Swingers

How to Share Your Fantasies with Your Partner (Without Pissing Them Off!)

Sharing Your Fantasies

Many of us have been there. The pounding heart, the twisting stomach, the need to share our true sexual longings versus the overwhelming anxiety keeping us silent because our significant other might get upset— Do we take the risk? Do we share our deepest, darkest bedroom fantasies? You are thinking, “I want to share my fantasies, but…ugh. What if my...

Kink

Domestic Discipline: He Wants to Spank Me. Should I Let Him?

Spanking in Domestic Discipline

  “I don’t know how I feel about him disciplining me. What do you think?” It's interesting how I get this question in one form or another, often asked very quietly, especially from blushing ladies. It’s as if the women inquiring about Domestic Discipline are afraid that the feminists of yesteryear might hear, rise up from their graves, and haunt...