Tag: desires

Swingers

5 Things To Discuss Before Your First Threesome

If you have the right partners, a threesome can be an exciting, mind blowing sexual experience.

Ready for your first threesome? Are you sure? Sometimes the best fantasies are better left to your imagination. However, if you have the right partners, a threesome can be an exciting, mind-blowing sexual experience. Before you start getting naked, there are some important things to go over with everyone that’s involved. Whether you’re the 3rd person, part of a couple,...

Sex

Coming Out To Your Partner

Coming Out Kinky to Your Partner

“Ah, um, our sex is great…but could you maybe spank me or pull my hair next time?” I bashfully asked my lover of 3 months. The pause that followed left me wondering if disapproval (at the minimum), or a trail of dust leading out the door (at the worst) would follow! Luckily, his next words were thoughtful, and carefully chosen....

Kink

How To Be A Good Girl

A Good Girl

If you are femme-identified, and you lean toward the submissive side, “good girl” has the potential to be a powerful aphrodisiac. Whether it’s offered up gaspingly in response to your oral sex skills, or whispered in your ear when you get back from a long day at work, “good girl” can be delightful to hear. (NOTE: if you are a...

Sex

What To Look For in a Casual Sex Partner

Wanna Hookup?

Finding a compatible sex partner isn’t the easiest task, even with hookup culture being predominantly popular at this moment in history. Casual sex nowadays can take many forms and is variable in every relationship, meaning there’s no cookie cutter way to having a successful casual partner. However, there are some qualities to look for in potential suitors that will help...

Swingers

7 Ways to Spot A Swinger

Are They Swingers?

If you’re into swinging, chances are you’ve had more than one encounter of trying to ‘spot the swinger’ with your partner. Asking potentially leading questions to a colleague, trying to suss out a new friend’s sexual predilections because they’ve just got that vibe, or looking for some sign or clue that your new neighbors are swingers because they keep regaling...

Sex

Seven signs that you might be sapiosexual

Sapiosexual: attracted to intelligence

Sapiosexual: attracted to intelligence There ought to be a scale for this, ranging from 1 to 6 like the Kinsey Scale, where 1 = “don’t talk, don’t text, let’s just pick a place and fuck” and 6 = “reading your published article on string theory makes me hard.” We’d still need some assessment tools, though. I offer the following for...

Swingers

How to Share Your Fantasies with Your Partner (Without Pissing Them Off!)

Sharing Your Fantasies

Many of us have been there. The pounding heart, the twisting stomach, the need to share our true sexual longings versus the overwhelming anxiety keeping us silent because our significant other might get upset— Do we take the risk? Do we share our deepest, darkest bedroom fantasies? You are thinking, “I want to share my fantasies, but…ugh. What if my...