Tag: discussion

Sex

How to Get the Sex You Crave: Communication Style and Relationships

Take a leap. Nothing will change unless your communication does.

So you’re having trouble getting what you want sexually from your partner(s), huh? Or maybe the honeymoon phase has ended and you’re realizing that in order to rekindle the sex flame, you need to start talking more openly about trying something new? I can’t tell you how many people, couples and individuals, have come into my psychotherapy office with this...

Kink

Beginner’s Guide to Sex Parties

Don't Be Creepy

I recently took a date to their first sex club, and that experience helped me see the place through a beginner’s eyes all over again. I remember how scared I was before my first time; I asked a series of questions in an online forum, everything from what to wear to what to bring with me. From talking to my...

Sex

Professor Sex Presents: Supercharging Your Sex Life

Professor Sex Presents: Supercharging your sex life.

One of the most common reasons that new clients reach out to me is because they want to “spice up” their sex life. They’ve been “together for a while” and the “magic is starting to fade.” They want to know if I can teach them any tricks for reigniting that spark. And, while I can definitely teach you plenty of...

Sex

Maintaining A Healthy Sexlife As Parents

The Secret SexLife of Parents

Before we were parents, we were a couple who did the best we could to make each other top priority. Sex was high on the priority list for both of us and we indulged as much as possible. Once our first baby arrived, like most new parents, we started shifting our focus. We were so excited about our baby and...

Poly

Fighting Fair

Are you fighting fair?

Ok, now you've done it. Despite all your best efforts, the inevitable conflict with a partner has arisen, and the fight is on. The question is, are you engaged in healthy conflict that will help everyone involved get what they need and be happy? Or are you dancing on the rhetorical battlefield, using your words to score points and share...

Dating

How to Discuss Sex on a Date Without Being Creepy

Let's Talk About Sex, Baby...

Let’s be honest, for most people on a date, sex is going to cross their minds. For allosexual folks (people who experience sexual attraction), a date often works as an audition of sorts, is this the kind of person I can see myself getting naked with? That decision might be about more than just that special spark of chemistry, the...