Tag: intimacy

Swingers

What Unicorns Want Couples To Know

Unicorn

“Unicorn” is slang for a single, generally bi-sexual female who participates in swinger lifestyle. Women like this are referred to as unicorns because they are very rare and hard to find. Being a coveted unicorn is a blessing and a curse. I love having the freedom and confidence to enjoy sex with whomever I choose. I love that I have...

Sex

How to Get the Sex You Crave: Communication Style and Relationships

Take a leap. Nothing will change unless your communication does.

So you’re having trouble getting what you want sexually from your partner(s), huh? Or maybe the honeymoon phase has ended and you’re realizing that in order to rekindle the sex flame, you need to start talking more openly about trying something new? I can’t tell you how many people, couples and individuals, have come into my psychotherapy office with this...

Poly

5 Signs You Might Be Happier in an Open Relationship

How do you know when you’re truly ready for an Open Relationship? Only you can know for sure...

If you’re reading this, I think it’s safe to say that you’re at least considering opening up your relationship. While polyamory, swinging, and open relationships are still a bit taboo, they’re becoming more and more mainstream, which means more people are looking to take a leap into the lifestyle than ever before. How do you know when you’re truly ready?...

Sex

Maintaining A Healthy Sexlife As Parents

The Secret SexLife of Parents

Before we were parents, we were a couple who did the best we could to make each other top priority. Sex was high on the priority list for both of us and we indulged as much as possible. Once our first baby arrived, like most new parents, we started shifting our focus. We were so excited about our baby and...

Sex

Coming Out To Your Partner

Coming Out Kinky to Your Partner

“Ah, um, our sex is great…but could you maybe spank me or pull my hair next time?” I bashfully asked my lover of 3 months. The pause that followed left me wondering if disapproval (at the minimum), or a trail of dust leading out the door (at the worst) would follow! Luckily, his next words were thoughtful, and carefully chosen....

Sex

It’s Never Too Late For Now: When Should I Seek Sex Therapy?

Let's Talk About Sex Therapy

“This is my last resort.” It’s not just a Papa Roach song. It’s most people’s approach to therapy. I often hear clients come in with an all too familiar request: “We have tried everything, and nothing has changed. This is our last attempt before we break up. Please help us.” They have argued and built up years of resentment; they...

Kink

How To Be A Good Girl

A Good Girl

If you are femme-identified, and you lean toward the submissive side, “good girl” has the potential to be a powerful aphrodisiac. Whether it’s offered up gaspingly in response to your oral sex skills, or whispered in your ear when you get back from a long day at work, “good girl” can be delightful to hear. (NOTE: if you are a...

Sex

Seven signs that you might be sapiosexual

Sapiosexual: attracted to intelligence

Sapiosexual: attracted to intelligence There ought to be a scale for this, ranging from 1 to 6 like the Kinsey Scale, where 1 = “don’t talk, don’t text, let’s just pick a place and fuck” and 6 = “reading your published article on string theory makes me hard.” We’d still need some assessment tools, though. I offer the following for...