Tag: multiple partner

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What To Do When You Feel Like A Third Wheel

The stirring of the old green eyed monster...

The truth is, monogamy doesn't come naturally to most humans. Oh, of course we try; we try hard. But all of human history is littered with the failures of enforced monogamy. We cheat, sneak behind our partner’s back, have one night stands, go on business trips, and operate under a “don't ask don't tell” policy, all the while struggling with...

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Party Planning: Getting Ready for Your First Sexy Play Party Experience!

Equal Opportunity Lovers - Pleasure knows no Sex, Race, Ethnicity, Religion, Sexual Orientation or Body Shape.

So, it’s finally time – you’re at the point where you’re ready to check out that swingers party, or BDSM club, or sexy event that you’ve been dreaming about. Are you nervous? I hope you are, at least a little bit, because that means that you want it to go well - you want to make sure that you enjoy...

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How to Balance Time with Multiple Partners

Important Poly Time Management and Communication Skills

One of the books that significantly impacted my relationships is Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages. In it, Chapman posits that everyone has a preeminent “love language” that best illustrates how they flourish in romantic relationships while both giving and receiving love, attention, and affection. “Your partner may express love in those ways, and...

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How to Join a Couple Without Losing Yourself

Male Unicorn Sighting

Many couples dream of finding a third partner (sometimes called a unicorn), which means solo non-monogamists interested in joining have the potential to be in high demand. Couple-solo threesomes and relationships can be a sexy way to play, but can also be risky when it comes to interpersonal dynamics. It’s all too easy to get lost in the energy, passion,...

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The Four Keys to Communication in Open Relationships

Open Communication

While excellent communication skills are a prerequisite for any healthy relationship, they are even more crucial in any kind of open relationship. Forget complex formulas for polyamorous communication! Any communication techniques must be simple enough for you and your partners to utilize them when there is a conflict, emotions are high, and no one is thinking clearly. When one or...

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5 Ways Polyamory Has Made Me A Happier Person

Before you can be unapologetically joyful, you gotta be unapologetically you.

Cheers, Sexy People! Can choosing a relationship structure that works for us make us truly happier, even if we are coloring outside the lines of traditional relationships?  I can tell you it was definitely part of my journey to happiness in my life. At one point, I truly had an epiphany about happiness versus non-happiness. What I found was: It...

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Six Benefits of Polyamorous Relationships

Friendly Threesome

In a previous blog I used data from my 20-year study of polyamorous families with children to list some of the pitfalls that challenge many polyamorous relationships. Ideally, that blog does not give you the impression that all poly relationships are only difficult and nothing good ever comes from them. In fact, that is far from the case. To provide...