Tag: respect

Kink

Beginner’s Guide to Sex Parties

Don't Be Creepy

I recently took a date to their first sex club, and that experience helped me see the place through a beginner’s eyes all over again. I remember how scared I was before my first time; I asked a series of questions in an online forum, everything from what to wear to what to bring with me. From talking to my...

Poly

Fighting Fair

Are you fighting fair?

Ok, now you've done it. Despite all your best efforts, the inevitable conflict with a partner has arisen, and the fight is on. The question is, are you engaged in healthy conflict that will help everyone involved get what they need and be happy? Or are you dancing on the rhetorical battlefield, using your words to score points and share...

Kink

How to Get Your Partner to be More Kinky

Enjoy the Kinky Side of Life

So you’re a kinkster, and you’ve found a wonderful person that you want to date. There’s just one small problem: they’re not exactly kinky. Don’t abandon ship just yet! Here are some strategies for helping to introduce your partner to your kinkier side, and helping them find theirs. Be specific. Look, “kinky” is a broad category. It covers everything from...

Dating

How to Discuss Sex on a Date Without Being Creepy

Let's Talk About Sex, Baby...

Let’s be honest, for most people on a date, sex is going to cross their minds. For allosexual folks (people who experience sexual attraction), a date often works as an audition of sorts, is this the kind of person I can see myself getting naked with? That decision might be about more than just that special spark of chemistry, the...

Swingers

How to Share Your Fantasies with Your Partner (Without Pissing Them Off!)

Sharing Your Fantasies

Many of us have been there. The pounding heart, the twisting stomach, the need to share our true sexual longings versus the overwhelming anxiety keeping us silent because our significant other might get upset— Do we take the risk? Do we share our deepest, darkest bedroom fantasies? You are thinking, “I want to share my fantasies, but…ugh. What if my...