Tag: communication

Kink

Think Before You Kink: Things To Consider Before You Get Kinky

The 5W's of Kink

Delving into kinky play with non-monogamous partners can be both exciting and risky. Whether you are playing very casually or with partners you know very well, there are so many things to consider. It’s common knowledge that communication is the key to keeping kink safe, sane and consensual. While spontaneity can be fun, when it comes to kink, you might...

Sex

How to Get the Sex You Crave: Communication Style and Relationships

Take a leap. Nothing will change unless your communication does.

So you’re having trouble getting what you want sexually from your partner(s), huh? Or maybe the honeymoon phase has ended and you’re realizing that in order to rekindle the sex flame, you need to start talking more openly about trying something new? I can’t tell you how many people, couples and individuals, have come into my psychotherapy office with this...

Dating

A Starting Point for Setting Personal Boundaries

Everyone has personal boundaries -- physical, mental, and emotional.

Remember the terms and conditions you agreed to when you signed up for Facebook? Oh, you don’t? You mean you just scrolled to the bottom and clicked “Agree” without reading the 3,500 words of legalese? If you are like everyone else, chances are that you didn’t read Facebook’s terms and conditions, you haven’t given them a second thought since then,...

Swingers

5 Things To Discuss Before Your First Threesome

If you have the right partners, a threesome can be an exciting, mind blowing sexual experience.

Ready for your first threesome? Are you sure? Sometimes the best fantasies are better left to your imagination. However, if you have the right partners, a threesome can be an exciting, mind-blowing sexual experience. Before you start getting naked, there are some important things to go over with everyone that’s involved. Whether you’re the 3rd person, part of a couple,...

Sex

Professor Sex Presents: Supercharging Your Sex Life

Professor Sex Presents: Supercharging your sex life.

One of the most common reasons that new clients reach out to me is because they want to “spice up” their sex life. They’ve been “together for a while” and the “magic is starting to fade.” They want to know if I can teach them any tricks for reigniting that spark. And, while I can definitely teach you plenty of...

Sex

Maintaining A Healthy Sexlife As Parents

The Secret SexLife of Parents

Before we were parents, we were a couple who did the best we could to make each other top priority. Sex was high on the priority list for both of us and we indulged as much as possible. Once our first baby arrived, like most new parents, we started shifting our focus. We were so excited about our baby and...

Kink

Toys, Toys, Everywhere You Look There’s Toys

BDSM BallGag

So you’ve watched a few movies, read a few books and thought, “Hm, that BDSM stuff looks like it might be fun. But how do we start?” Dipping your toe in the BDSM pool is an intriguing thought. The first thing you need to know is BDSM is first, and foremost, a power exchange between two, or more, people. The...

Sex

Coming Out To Your Partner

Coming Out Kinky to Your Partner

“Ah, um, our sex is great…but could you maybe spank me or pull my hair next time?” I bashfully asked my lover of 3 months. The pause that followed left me wondering if disapproval (at the minimum), or a trail of dust leading out the door (at the worst) would follow! Luckily, his next words were thoughtful, and carefully chosen....

Swingers

How To Ask Your Wife To Be a Hotwife

The Making of a Hotwife

Have you fantasized about watching your wife with other men? Does the thought of knowing she wants and enjoys other men really turn you on? Have you thought about asking her to have sex with someone else? If you answered ‘yes’ to these questions, you are probably thinking about asking your wife if she’d like to become a hotwife. Before you...

Poly

Fighting Fair

Are you fighting fair?

Ok, now you've done it. Despite all your best efforts, the inevitable conflict with a partner has arisen, and the fight is on. The question is, are you engaged in healthy conflict that will help everyone involved get what they need and be happy? Or are you dancing on the rhetorical battlefield, using your words to score points and share...