Tag: Open Relationships


Break-Ups in Open Relationships: Your Survival Guide

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Break-ups are hard -- especially in open relationships. While non-monogamy is more common than ever, very few people will understand exactly what you're going through. Close friends and family may not know how to help you and might not even try. Or worse -- their judgment will make the healing process more difficult. There is no simple road map for...


5 Reasons You Should Have WAY More Morning Sex, Backed by Science

Good mornings almost always lead to good days. They set the tone for everything you have to do before hitting the sheets again, so you gotta make the most of it!  Like by having sex. It’s not just about the good feelings you get afterward (though that’s definitely an important part of it). Actually, there are all kinds of science-backed...


Preventing Break-ups in Open Relationships

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As a counselor in private practice in Berkeley, California, I see a lot of clients who are navigating the complexities of some form of open relationships. Some practice the swinging lifestyle, others form triads, some are married but have outside long-term relationships. Most have gone through one or two painful break-ups in their explorations of this relationship style. To help...


Women, Get All The Sex That You Want


Women can enjoy sex with multiple partners just as much as men can. This statement might seem obvious to some. Based on my experience, not many people buy into this. The reason I write about my sex life is because this still seems a little unclear. When I search for sex-positive information about non-monogamy or casual sex, the majority of...


Interview with Janet W. Hardy, Author of The Ethical Slut

Interview with Author Janet Hardy

We at SwingTowns are thrilled to share with our readers an exclusive interview from Janet W. Hardy, co-author of the bestselling book The Ethical Slut. SwingTowns: Besides being sex educator, you are also the author/co-author of eleven books, including the bestselling book The Ethical Slut. When did you decide to become a sex educator and author, and why this profession? Janet...


5 Signs You Might Be Happier in an Open Relationship

How do you know when you’re truly ready for an Open Relationship? Only you can know for sure...

If you’re reading this, I think it’s safe to say that you’re at least considering opening up your relationship. While polyamory, swinging, and open relationships are still a bit taboo, they’re becoming more and more mainstream, which means more people are looking to take a leap into the lifestyle than ever before. How do you know when you’re truly ready?...


On Egalitarian Polyamory

Egalitarian Polyamory

On Egalitarian Polyamory I began my journey to polyamory much the same as many newbies do. I was in a failing relationship and trying anything possible to keep it afloat. I suggested an “open” relationship to my then boyfriend. He agreed. And, in the spirit of competition, I began immediately looking for dates. I was terrified he would find someone...


How To Ask Your Wife To Be a Hotwife

The Making of a Hotwife

Have you fantasized about watching your wife with other men? Does the thought of knowing she wants and enjoys other men really turn you on? Have you thought about asking her to have sex with someone else? If you answered ‘yes’ to these questions, you are probably thinking about asking your wife if she’d like to become a hotwife. Before you...


How to Join a Couple Without Losing Yourself

Male Unicorn Sighting

Many couples dream of finding a third partner (sometimes called a unicorn), which means solo non-monogamists interested in joining have the potential to be in high demand. Couple-solo threesomes and relationships can be a sexy way to play, but can also be risky when it comes to interpersonal dynamics. It’s all too easy to get lost in the energy, passion,...


The Four Keys to Communication in Open Relationships

Open Communication

While excellent communication skills are a prerequisite for any healthy relationship, they are even more crucial in any kind of open relationship. Forget complex formulas for polyamorous communication! Any communication techniques must be simple enough for you and your partners to utilize them when there is a conflict, emotions are high, and no one is thinking clearly. When one or...