Tag: relationships

Dating

A Starting Point for Setting Personal Boundaries

Everyone has personal boundaries -- physical, mental, and emotional.

Remember the terms and conditions you agreed to when you signed up for Facebook? Oh, you don’t? You mean you just scrolled to the bottom and clicked “Agree” without reading the 3,500 words of legalese? If you are like everyone else, chances are that you didn’t read Facebook’s terms and conditions, you haven’t given them a second thought since then,...

Poly

What To Do When You Feel Like A Third Wheel

The stirring of the old green eyed monster...

The truth is, monogamy doesn't come naturally to most humans. Oh, of course we try; we try hard. But all of human history is littered with the failures of enforced monogamy. We cheat, sneak behind our partner’s back, have one night stands, go on business trips, and operate under a “don't ask don't tell” policy, all the while struggling with...

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5 Signs You Might Be Happier in an Open Relationship

How do you know when you’re truly ready for an Open Relationship? Only you can know for sure...

If you’re reading this, I think it’s safe to say that you’re at least considering opening up your relationship. While polyamory, swinging, and open relationships are still a bit taboo, they’re becoming more and more mainstream, which means more people are looking to take a leap into the lifestyle than ever before. How do you know when you’re truly ready?...

Dating

Tired of “Living in the Closet” when it comes to your Friends? Creating Friendship in the Lifestyle

Friends are like Bras…

Friends are like Bras… They come in various styles, colors, and each has a unique purpose, place or benefit to share with you. Throughout your life, you have made friends with upwards of 100 women, or more. Some are close-knit and tight, others are loose and carefree. There are friends whom you only see in certain situations and others you...

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How to Balance Time with Multiple Partners

Important Poly Time Management and Communication Skills

One of the books that significantly impacted my relationships is Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages. In it, Chapman posits that everyone has a preeminent “love language” that best illustrates how they flourish in romantic relationships while both giving and receiving love, attention, and affection. “Your partner may express love in those ways, and...

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How to Join a Couple Without Losing Yourself

Male Unicorn Sighting

Many couples dream of finding a third partner (sometimes called a unicorn), which means solo non-monogamists interested in joining have the potential to be in high demand. Couple-solo threesomes and relationships can be a sexy way to play, but can also be risky when it comes to interpersonal dynamics. It’s all too easy to get lost in the energy, passion,...

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Adding a Third to Your Relationship

The More the Merrier...Maybe?

The First Step to Adding a Third to Your Relationship: Don’t Do It Yes, I said it. Don’t add a third to your relationship. “But you’ve been in triad relationships before!” you may cry. You certainly know a lot about my personal life, and yes, I’ve been in a number of triads, both MFM and FFM. It wasn’t easy, but...

Sex

It’s Never Too Late For Now: When Should I Seek Sex Therapy?

Let's Talk About Sex Therapy

“This is my last resort.” It’s not just a Papa Roach song. It’s most people’s approach to therapy. I often hear clients come in with an all too familiar request: “We have tried everything, and nothing has changed. This is our last attempt before we break up. Please help us.” They have argued and built up years of resentment; they...

Dating

Six Reasons Why Younger Men Love Older Women

May/December "Cougar" Relationships are Awesome!

The older woman/younger man relationship is desirable for a multitude of reasons. Once a man has dated or had sex with someone older, he tends to have a preference towards that dynamic. These relationships can last a few days or years, but rarely are they remembered as anything but positive experiences. Here’s why: 1. Confidence The most appealing trait in...