Nestled in the heart of Livermore, California, CandY’s Adventures, recently rebranded as Know My Truth (KMT), is redefining the local lifestyle scene with an inclusive, consent‑driven approach to swinger events. Whether you’re a curious couple dipping your toes into the lifestyle, a seasoned duo exploring deeper connections, or a respectful single looking to be part of a balanced, community‑focused gathering, KMT offers something for you.
Unlike many high-energy, club-style parties, KMT prioritizes education first—offering monthly Couples Powwows and orientation workshops in a living-room–style setting to build confidence, improve communication, and foster safety and consent. After grounding participants, they host a variety of events—from sunny afternoon meet‑and‑greets at Downtown Livermore’s Blacksmith Square to intimate, themed evening house parties—each guided by their core values of respect, consent, safety, and fun.
Couples and single women are welcome with open arms, while single men must pass a vetting process—starting with orientation attendance, interviews, and adherence to event directions—before gaining access to parties. This ensures a comfortable environment where female-to-male ratios remain mindful, respectful, and enjoyable.
In the sections below, we’ll dive into what makes CandY’s Adventures/KMT truly special—from their unique event offerings and thoughtful admission policies to what newcomers can expect when they walk through the door.
Club Overview: CandY’s Adventures → Know My Truth (KMT)
CandY’s Adventures, now known as Know My Truth (KMT), has been a trusted hub for swingers and open-minded couples in Livermore, CA, evolving into a lifestyle educational leader rooted in community, safety, and genuine human connection.
Core Mission & Values
KMT isn’t just about socializing—it’s about transformation. They offer a rich mix of online workshops and in-person events with the aim of enhancing intimacy, trust, and communication. Every offering is built around their four core principles:
- Respect for all participants
- Consent as the foundation of every interaction
- Safety in both emotional and physical space
- Fun—but only when grounded in mutual comfort and understanding
Who It’s For
- Newcomer couples curious about exploring the scene but hesitant about where to start
- Seasoned swingers seeking a more conscious, respectful environment
- Single women, always welcome with open arms
- Single men, carefully screened and welcome only with prior orientation and vetting
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Event Types at a Glance
- Online Lifestyle Workshops – Learn from home about consent, better communication, and relationship dynamics before attending any in-person event
- Couples Powwows & Orientation Sessions – Held twice a month in a relaxed, living-room setting; designed to answer questions, ease fears, and teach lifestyle etiquette
- Meet & Greets – Casual, daytime social mixers in public spaces like Livermore’s Blacksmith Square; clothing is required, play is not
- House Parties – Intimate, themed evening events (e.g., “Winter White”) hosted at private residences with a typical turnout of around 55 guests; playful but never pressured
What Sets KMT Apart
- A balanced and intentional guest list, with strong female-to-male ratios and a single-man cap to avoid “sausage-fest” scenarios
- A vetting process for single men that includes orientation attendance, background conversations, and clear behavioral expectations
- A comfort-first atmosphere, where every event—from meetups to parties—is built on the shared understanding that “no means no,” and consent is always front and center
This refreshing combination of safety, education, and social connection creates a space where both newcomers and veterans feel empowered to explore—and grow—on their own terms.
Location and Atmosphere
CandY’s Adventures, now operating under the name Know My Truth (KMT), creates a distinct experience by blending home-style comfort with casual social settings in Livermore, California. Their choice of venues supports both newcomer ease and veteran enjoyment, making every event feel welcoming, respectful, and intentionally curated.
Private, home-based events—such as orientation sessions and couples powwows—are typically held in the host’s living room. This approach creates a relaxed, safe environment ideal for education, open conversation, and learning the etiquette of the lifestyle. The intimate setting is especially suited for those just starting their journey into consensual non-monogamy, where questions and discussion are encouraged rather than rushed.
Public-facing meet and greets take place in venues like Blacksmith Square, located at 21 South Livermore Avenue. These non-play events are casual and open to conversation, often held from early to mid-afternoon to encourage socializing in a low-pressure setting. Local hangouts like Tap 25 and Swirls offer convenient places for guests to continue connecting after the official event. These daytime socials are fully clothed and ideal for making friends and acquaintances before stepping into more private events.
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Evening parties are hosted at select private residences in Livermore. These are play-optional gatherings with themed attire encouraged but not required. With a typical attendance of around 55 guests and an average participant age of 43, the environment feels more like a curated house party than a commercial nightclub. The layout includes designated social areas, private bedrooms for consensual play, a smoking patio with a fireplace, and even a shower area for comfort and cleanliness.
By utilizing both home settings and public venues, KMT offers flexibility and comfort for a wide range of participants. Whether you’re seeking education in a calm indoor space or casual mingling in a vibrant downtown setting, their event locations are chosen to reflect warmth, discretion, and approachability.
Event Types and What to Expect
CandY’s Adventures, now operating under the name Know My Truth (KMT), offers a well-rounded selection of events that serve both newcomers and seasoned lifestyle participants. Each event type is crafted to support communication, community building, and exploration in an atmosphere grounded in respect and safety. Events are structured in a way that allows guests to move at their own pace, whether they are taking their first steps into the lifestyle or looking to deepen their existing experience.
Lifestyle workshops and couples powwows are held twice monthly and are non-play, educational events. These gatherings are typically hosted in a relaxed, home-based living room setting to encourage open discussion and reduce the pressure often associated with lifestyle introductions. Topics include navigating lifestyle etiquette, learning the boundaries of consent, understanding the difference between assertiveness and aggression, and building strong communication habits. The couples-only powwow offers a private space for partnered attendees to ask questions and reflect, while the general orientation sessions are also open to single men. Attendance at orientation is mandatory for single males who wish to participate in any other events, and they must prepay to confirm their attendance. The fee is $40 for orientation alone or $100 for a workshop and party combination. Walk-ins are not accepted.
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Meet and greets are casual, non-play social events often held at Blacksmith Square in downtown Livermore. These are public, daytime mixers typically scheduled from 1 PM to 5 PM. Attendees gather for light drinks and conversation in an approachable environment. The intention is to help guests connect with others in a laid-back, low-pressure setting. These events are ideal for those who prefer getting to know potential playmates or friends before moving into more private environments. While couples and single women are welcome, single men must have either attended the lifestyle orientation or received prior approval. Only five spots are available for vetted single males at each of these socials, ensuring a balanced gender ratio and preserving comfort for everyone in attendance.
House parties are the heart of KMT’s community and are structured to support both social and intimate engagement in a private, respectful environment. These evening events begin with an open social forum from 6:15 to 8 PM to help guests ease into the night and establish connections. This is a time to ask questions, mingle, and align expectations with others. Themes such as “Winter White” are often suggested for added fun, though participation is always optional. The parties are play-optional and hosted at private residences with an average guest list of around 55 people, most in their 40s. Guests are welcome to enjoy the space as they please—whether that means socializing all evening or exploring consensual play.
Donations are requested at the door: $40 to $60 for couples, $10 to $20 for single women, and $65 to $100 for single men. Only three pre-approved single males are admitted per event. Amenities provided include condoms, lube, a shower facility, an outdoor smoking area with a fireplace, ice, and water. Guests are asked to bring a dish or snack to share, their favorite drinks and mixers, towels, and any personal items needed for comfort or play.
KMT’s event structure provides a gradual and supported path into the lifestyle. Educational sessions and social mixers allow people to explore and connect without pressure, while private house parties offer a more intimate atmosphere for those ready to take the next step—all within a clearly defined code of conduct designed to keep every participant safe and respected.
Entry Requirements and Policies
CandY’s Adventures, now operating as Know My Truth (KMT), enforces clear and intentional entry requirements to ensure that all guests—especially women and couples—feel safe, respected, and free to explore at their own comfort level. These guidelines help preserve the integrity of every event and set a strong standard for behavior, particularly for single male attendees.
Single men must meet several prerequisites before they are permitted to attend any event. First and foremost, they are required to attend a lifestyle orientation session or couples powwow. These sessions are educational and evaluative, designed not just to inform but also to screen for respectful behavior and the right mindset. Orientation attendance is non-negotiable for single men, and walk-ins are not allowed under any circumstance.
In addition to orientation, single men must prepay for their attendance. The fee is $40 for the orientation alone or $100 for the orientation and party combination. Cash is no longer accepted at the door. Failing to prepay will result in immediate removal from the attendee list. This policy is in place to reduce no-shows and ensure that all single men are invested in the values of the community.
Prospective single male guests must also complete a brief interview during the orientation process. This is not a test of appearance, age, or charm—it is a means of evaluating how well they understand and embody the values of respect, consent, and communication. Additionally, they are expected to follow all instructions exactly as outlined in event communications. Any attempts to bypass or ignore these procedures are seen as red flags and will disqualify the guest from future participation.
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To maintain an enjoyable and balanced event environment, single men are strictly limited in number. House parties typically allow no more than three vetted single men, and meet and greets cap single male attendance at five. This ratio management ensures that events do not feel male-dominated and that everyone in attendance has the opportunity to socialize in a comfortable and respectful setting.
Single women are warmly welcomed at all events. Their donation for house party attendance is typically between $10 and $20. Couples are also encouraged to attend but are not required to go through the orientation process unless they wish to. Their suggested donation for house parties generally ranges from $40 to $60.
RSVPs are mandatory for all events. This is especially important for single men, as attempting to show up without proper clearance will result in removal from the guest list and possibly a permanent ban. Refunds on ticket purchases are available up to 72 hours before the event. After that time, all sales are final. The event organizers reserve the right to refuse or cancel any ticket purchase at their discretion.
All guests must adhere to a clearly defined code of conduct. Consent is the cornerstone of every interaction. No one should touch another person without explicit permission. Nudity is allowed only in designated areas, and guests are expected to be clothed in social spaces. Loitering near play areas or attempting to engage with others without consent is strictly prohibited. Viewing of play is allowed but limited to five minutes per room. Aggressive behavior, boundary violations, or a failure to share communal spaces respectfully will lead to ejection and a ban from future events.
These policies are not just rules—they are the foundation of what makes KMT’s events feel welcoming, empowering, and safe. By holding attendees to high standards and enforcing them fairly, KMT ensures that everyone can explore with confidence and without pressure.
Dress Code and Atmosphere
CandY’s Adventures, now known as Know My Truth (KMT), sets a clear tone of casual comfort with just the right amount of flair. Whether you’re attending a daytime meet and greet or an evening house party, the emphasis is on dressing respectfully, comfortably, and appropriately for the occasion. The goal is to create an environment where guests feel confident, welcome, and at ease.
For non-play events such as orientation sessions and daytime meetups, a smart-casual dress code is encouraged. Guests are expected to arrive in clean, weather-appropriate attire. For men, that might mean jeans or slacks paired with a polo or button-down shirt. For women, sundresses, blouses with skirts or slacks, or stylish tops with jeans are all perfectly suitable. These events are public or semi-public, and maintaining a neat, relaxed appearance helps support the social, conversational atmosphere.
Evening house parties tend to offer more freedom of expression, particularly when themes are involved. Past themes have included events like “Winter White,” where guests were encouraged to wear white clothing, lingerie, or creative costumes. While participation in themed attire is always optional, it’s an opportunity to add a touch of fun and creativity to the evening. Guests are also welcome to bring extra outfits and change throughout the night if they wish to shift from social wear to something more sensual as the evening progresses.
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At all events, clothing must remain on in social areas. Nudity is strictly reserved for designated private play spaces. This boundary ensures a respectful environment and helps everyone feel safe, especially those who may be new to the lifestyle. Play is never expected, and dressing in a suggestive or themed way does not signal consent. Maintaining this distinction is central to the KMT experience.
When events are held outdoors or in mixed environments, such as at Blacksmith Square, attendees are asked to dress appropriately for the weather. These meetups are fully clothed, non-play social events designed to help people connect in a relaxed public setting. Layers, light jackets, or sun-appropriate outfits may be advised depending on the season.
The atmosphere at KMT events is consistently warm, grounded, and community-focused. Daytime events tend to have an upbeat but low-pressure feel, while house parties combine a cozy living room aesthetic with ambient lighting, music, and optional play. With small, curated guest lists, the vibe remains intimate and supportive, even when the energy builds as the night progresses.
Whether you’re attending an orientation session in casual streetwear or donning a costume for a themed party, KMT’s dress expectations are rooted in comfort, self-expression, and above all, respect for the environment and one another.
Amenities & Practical Details
CandY’s Adventures—now known as Know My Truth (KMT)—puts thoughtful consideration into guest comfort and convenience. Whether through shared snacks, provided essentials, or thoughtful facilities, every event is designed to support a safe and enjoyable experience.
Snacks, Drinks & BYOB
- House Parties
Guests are encouraged to bring snacks or appetizers to share, fostering a communal atmosphere around food. You’re also welcome to bring your own drinks and mixers. KMT provides essentials like ice, water, and cups to support self-service, making it easy to socialize and enjoy the night at your own pace. - Meet & Greets
Held in public venues such as winery courtyards—typically places like Blacksmith Square with nearby Tap 25 or Swirls—these daytime mixers offer easy access to cafés, bars, or wineries if guests want to purchase drinks or snacks on site. They’re casual and convenient by design.
On-Site Essentials
To help the evening flow smoothly and safely, KMT makes sure the following are readily available, especially at house parties:
- Condoms and lube in all play areas
- Shower facilities to help guests freshen up
- Outdoor fireplace and smoking area with seating, ensuring comfort and discretion
- Ice and water stations, essential for hydration and refreshment
Attendees are encouraged to bring towels for personal use, and—if relevant to their experience—a waterproof blanket or sheet (for example, for those who identify as squirters).
Facilities & Accommodations
- Private bedrooms for consensual play, with clear “no nudity in social areas” boundaries
- Living-room style lounges where guests can relax, converse, or take breaks from the more active areas
- Shower availability, so guests can rinse off or reset at any point during the event
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Accessibility & Local Lodging
House party locations change with each event but are always within Livermore. On the day before a party, the precise address is shared with confirmed RSVPs. The hosts recommend that anyone traveling from out of town—or anyone who might be around late—consider booking one of the many hotels within a three-mile radius. This reduces pressure around driving cover and allows for a comfortable exit or private after-party.
House Rules & Code of Conduct
CandY’s Adventures, now Know My Truth (KMT), enforces a clear, respectful code of conduct to ensure every guest feels safe, welcomed, and free to participate at their own comfort level. These house rules are shared before each event and agreed upon by all attendees—violations may result in immediate removal and potential ban.
Behavioral Expectations
- Always ask before touching anyone. Consent must be explicit and ongoing.
- Respect “No means no.” Any denial or withdrawal of consent is final and must be honored without question.
- No aggressive behavior or pressure of any kind—social or intimate.
- Be mindful of shared spaces and others’ comfort: avoid crowding in bedrooms or social areas, and give everyone space to connect.
Nudity & Viewing Protocol
- Nudity is restricted to designated private play areas. Clothing is required in all common spaces.
- Viewing of play is allowed but limited. Guests may observe for no more than five minutes per room to maintain privacy and comfort.
- Do not hover outside bedrooms or expect invitations to join. Respect both the privacy of others and the group’s dynamics.
Equipment & Hygiene
- Condoms and lube are provided in all bedrooms to support safe, consensual play.
- Shower facilities are available—guests are encouraged to use them between activities.
- Bring your own towels and waterproof blankets if needed—especially for fluid-friendly play styles.
Social Responsibility
- Clean up after yourself. Empty your cups, plate, or play items when done.
- Share spaces fairly. Don’t monopolize bedrooms or play zones.
- Mind your noise. Social areas, especially outdoors, should remain considerate of nearby neighbors or other guests.
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Enforcement & Respect
- Hosts reserve the right to ask anyone to leave—immediately and without refund—if rules are broken.
- Repeat or serious offenses can result in permanent bans.
- Anyone, regardless of gender or status, can speak up if they feel uncomfortable or witness a rule violation.
- The emphasis is always on clear boundaries, open communication, and mutual respect—creating a community where exploration is free, safe, and consent-first.
Find Real Swinger Couples Near You—No Pressure, Just Pleasure.
Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or a seasoned couple seeking deeper, more meaningful connections, Know My Truth (formerly CandY’s Adventures) offers a safe, fun, and respectful space to explore at your own pace. With everything from educational workshops and relaxed daytime socials to carefully curated house parties, this Livermore-based community is one of the Bay Area’s best-kept secrets for swinger couples and open-minded adventurers.
Ready to take the next step?
RSVP to an upcoming orientation, attend a laid-back meet and greet, or dive into a themed house party where boundaries are respected and friendships grow organically. Start your journey with a group that puts consent, comfort, and real connection first.
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