Caligula in Astoria, Queens is an on-premise swinger/social club built for couples, single ladies, and—on select nights—vetted single gentlemen. The vibe skews late-night and themed (think “One Night Stand” Thursdays, “Friday Cuckold,” blackout parties, and a big Halloween bash), with hours that typically run Thu 9pm–3am, Fri–Sat 9pm–4am, Sun 9pm–3am. First-time guests are expected to RSVP; for privacy, the club shares precise arrival details after you reserve, though listings consistently place it in Astoria 11105 with the 516-301-7800 reservations line. Expect a dress-to-impress baseline (theme attire encouraged), a consent-forward floor where “No means No,” and a no-nonsense stance on over-drinking or harassment. If you’re a swinger or open-minded couple planning a NYC weekend, this is the Queens option with a proven calendar of couple-centric party nights—arrive early for smoother check-in and to lock in the theme-night details you want.
Quick Overview
- What it is: Caligula is an on-premise, upscale swinger/social club in Astoria (ZIP 11105) hosting themed late-night parties for couples, single ladies, and—on select nights—vetted single gentlemen.
- Operating rhythm: Typically Thu 9pm–3am, Fri–Sat 9pm–4am, Sun 9pm–3am. Exact times can vary by event and promoter.
- RSVP & privacy: First-time guests must RSVP. For privacy, the club shares the precise address after you reserve; returning members are still encouraged to RSVP for smoother entry.
- Who can attend (door policy): Couples + single ladies are admitted on all listed nights; single gents are allowed only on designated events and must follow escort/ratio rules if stated. Valid government ID required.
- Vibe & format: Couples-first, consent-forward nightlife with rotating themes (e.g., One Night Stand Thursdays, Friday Cuckold editions, blackout parties, seasonal bashes). Expect a lounge/club atmosphere with social zones and private spaces managed by event staff.
- Dress code: “Dress to Impress” baseline; theme attire strongly encouraged on specialty nights (lingerie/fetish looks acceptable within guidelines). Guests should be clean, neat, and well groomed.
- Behavior & safety: Strict consent culture—“No means No.” No harassment. Over-drinking is not tolerated. Follow posted phone/camera rules (assume no photos on the floor unless explicitly allowed).
- Pricing & tickets: Varies by event (promoter, night, and tier). Popular themes can sell out; booking early is smart.
- Good to know (first-timers): Arrive early for quicker check-in and better locker/space availability; bring both cash and card; review the night’s listing for who’s allowed, last-entry time, and any special rules before you go.
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October 2025 Themes & Weekly Rhythm
Operating pattern: Caligula runs late-night, themed parties Thursday–Sunday. Doors typically open at 9:00 pm and close 3:00–4:00 am depending on the night. First-time guests must RSVP to receive the exact address. Couples and single ladies are admitted on all listed nights; select single gentlemen are admitted only on designated events.
Confirmed October 2025 lineup (Astoria):
- Thu, Oct 16 — “ONE NIGHT STAND” [Swinger Fling Thursday Edition] · 9:00 pm–3:00 am
- Fri, Oct 17 — “FRIDAY CUCKOLD” [My Hubby Likes to Watch Edition] · 9:00 pm–4:00 am
- Sat, Oct 18 — “OCTOBER SWINGER BLACKOUT” (Couples & Single Ladies) · 9:00 pm–4:00 am
- Sun, Oct 19 — “SINFUL SUNDAY NIGHT SWINGER SOCIAL” [Sexy Fall 2025 Edition] · 9:00 pm–3:00 am
- Thu, Oct 23 — “ONE NIGHT STAND” [Swinger Fling Thursday Edition] · 9:00 pm–3:00 am
- Fri, Oct 24 — “COUGARS, MILFS & HOT WIVES” [Fornication Friday Edition] · 9:00 pm–4:00 am
- **Sat, Oct 25 — HALLOWEEN BASH 2025: “VAMPIRES & VIXENS EDITION” · 9:00 pm–4:00 am
- Sun, Oct 26 — “SINFUL SUNDAY NIGHT SWINGER SOCIAL” [Sexy Fall 2025 Edition] · 9:00 pm–3:00 am
- Thu, Oct 30 — “ONE NIGHT STAND” [Swinger Fling Thursday Edition] · 9:00 pm–3:00 am
What changes often (verify in your RSVP confirmation):
- Ratios/door policy for single gents (allowed only on specific nights).
- Pricing/ticket tiers and any pre-sale or capacity limits.
- Last-entry time and re-entry rules on busy theme nights.
- Dress specifics for themed parties (baseline remains Dress to Impress; theme attire encouraged).
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Pro tips for couples: Arrive early for smoother check-in and better locker/space availability; bring valid ID; set boundaries together before you go; and review the night’s rules in your RSVP confirmation to avoid surprises.
Who Can Attend (Door & Ratios)
Core door policy
- Couples and single ladies: Admitted on all listed nights (subject to standard rules and dress code).
- Single gentlemen: Admitted only on special nights noted by the club. At couples-only events, single male members must be accompanied by a female at all times.
- Age & ID: Bring a valid government ID; entry is at management’s discretion.
RSVP & privacy
- First-time guests must RSVP to attend.
- For privacy, the exact address is provided after a reservation is made; plan on the Astoria, NY 11105 area.
Membership & recognition
- You become a member on your first visit.
- The club notes it accepts certain lifestyle memberships (e.g., SLS, SDC, Kasidie, Club Amante’s, Role Play AC, Miami Velvet FL, Trapeze Atlanta). Acceptance can vary—confirm if yours is recognized when you RSVP.
Behavioral standards (enforced at the door and inside)
- Consent is mandatory: “No means No.” Approach respectfully; no harassment.
- Moderation required: Over-drinking is not acceptable and can result in removal.
- Couples-only play area: Single gentlemen may not enter unless escorted by a lady.
- Drugs are prohibited. Violations result in removal.
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Dress expectations
- Baseline is Dress to Impress (clean, neat, well-groomed); theme attire encouraged on special nights. The club may deny entry for dress-code violations.
What varies by event (always check your listing/RSVP confirmation)
- Whether single gentlemen are allowed that night and any ratio/escort requirements
- Last-entry time, re-entry rules, and capacity limits
- Any theme-specific dress details or special instructions
Tickets, Pricing & RSVP (How to Get In)
RSVP is required for first-time guests.
You’ll receive the exact address after you reserve (the club publishes Astoria, NY 11105 for planning). Returning members are encouraged to RSVP for smoother entry and capacity management.
How to RSVP
- Phone: 516-301-7800
- Online form: Submit your name, contact info, and the specific event you’re attending.
What to expect after you RSVP
- A confirmation with arrival details (address, door times, last entry).
- Any night-specific rules (e.g., whether single gentlemen are allowed, dress notes, phone/camera policy).
- Reminder to bring valid government ID and follow the dress code (“Dress to Impress”; theme attire encouraged on special nights).
Pricing
- Varies by event and promoter. Caligula posts prices on each event listing (e.g., Thursdays vs. Fridays/Saturdays, special themes, holiday parties).
- Popular themes and holiday bashes can sell out—reserve early if you’re date-locked.
At the door
- Couples + single ladies admitted on all listed nights; select single gentlemen only on designated events.
- Entry is at management’s discretion. Dress-code violations or rule issues can result in denial or removal.
- Over-drinking is not acceptable; you may be refused entry or asked to leave if you can’t self-moderate.
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Payment & mixers
- Ticket/entry payment details are provided per event (bring both cash and card to avoid hiccups).
- Inside, expect complimentary mixers (soda, water, juice; ice and cups), with some premium options sold separately (e.g., energy drinks).
Before you purchase/arrive, double-check the event post for:
- Exact door times and last entry
- Who can attend (single-gent policy for that night)
- Price/tiers and any pre-sale or capacity limits
- Theme-specific dress guidance
- Phone/camera rules, re-entry policy, and any promoter-specific instructions
Dress Code & What to Bring
Dress Code (what the club expects)
- Baseline: Dress to Impress (clean, neat, well-groomed). Theme attire is optional but encouraged on specialty nights (lingerie, fetish looks within guidelines).
- Mid-week note: For any non-theme, daytime/mid-week functions the club allows “casual but neat.”
- Not allowed:
- High-top sneakers, work boots, sweats, running suits
- Baseball caps, bandanas, doo-rags (if you arrive in them, store in a locker); fedoras/dress hats are fine
- Men: Sleeveless T-shirts not allowed outside playrooms
- Allowed (and common): Dress jeans or shorts (must be worn cinched at the waist—no “low hangers”), fetish-wear and lingerie on theme nights.
- Enforcement: Entry can be denied (or you may be asked to leave) for dress-code violations.
What to Bring (couples’ checklist)
- Government ID (required at the door).
- Payment: Bring cash and card—pricing and payment options can vary by event/promoter.
- Theme outfit + a simple cover-up for arrival/departure.
- Comfortable, code-compliant shoes (avoid work boots/high-tops).
- Protection & hygiene: condoms, toy wipes, deodorant, breath mints.
- Small clutch or crossbody (keep belongings minimal).
- Hydration & mixers: The club provides complimentary mixers (soda, water, juice; ice and cups). If you prefer a specific juice, you may bring your own. Energy drinks are typically sold on site.
- Phones/cameras: Follow the night-specific rules; many lifestyle events restrict photography on the floor—assume no photos unless explicitly allowed.
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Quick Prep Tips
- Check the event listing for any theme-specific attire notes (e.g., color nights, lingerie, fetish formal).
- Plan for late hours (nights run to 3–4 am): choose outfits/shoes you can comfortably dance and mingle in.
- Arrive polished: the door team is strict about grooming and attire—looking sharp speeds up entry.
Consent, Safety & Privacy
Consent is non-negotiable
- The golden rule is “No means No.” Do not push boundaries—ever.
- Approach respectfully to start conversations; no harassment of any kind.
- Never assume interest or permission. Always ask politely and accept the answer immediately.
Alcohol, conduct & removal
- Over-drinking is not acceptable. If you can’t self-moderate, you may be removed.
- Drugs are absolutely prohibited—carrying or using will get you removed.
- Management enforces rules; disrespectful behavior toward guests or staff results in removal and admission is forfeited.
Space etiquette & play areas
- Caligula is a social club where you can “take it to the next level” only if everyone is on the same page.
- Couples-only play area: Single gentlemen are not permitted unless escorted by a lady. Follow any escort/ratio rules stated for the specific event.
Dress & door discretion
- Expect a Dress to Impress baseline (theme attire encouraged when applicable).
- The club may deny entry or ask you to leave for dress-code or rules violations.
Privacy & address sharing
- For guest privacy, the exact address is provided after you RSVP. Do not post location details publicly.
- First-time guests must RSVP. Returning members are encouraged to RSVP for smoother entry and capacity management.
Phones/cameras
- Follow the event’s posted phone/camera policy. If it isn’t explicitly allowed, assume no photos on the floor.
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Jealousy & couple check-ins
- Caligula encourages couples to arrive together, stay connected, and leave together.
- If jealousy pops up, stop, step aside to a quiet spot, and talk it out. If you can’t resolve it, end the night gracefully.
Mixers & moderation
- Complimentary soda, water, and juices (plus ice and cups) are provided; premium options like energy drinks may be sold.
- If you prefer a specific juice, you may bring your own. Pace yourself and hydrate—nights can run until 3–4 am.
Venue, Hours & Arrival
Where you’re going (privacy-first):
Caligula shares its exact address after you RSVP. For planning, the club is in Astoria, NY 11105—minutes from Manhattan by car or subway—with plenty of legal street parking noted by the venue.
Operating rhythm:
- Open weekly, Thursday through Sunday.
- Door times vary by event, but October listings reflect a typical pattern of Thu 9:00 pm–3:00 am, Fri–Sat 9:00 pm–4:00 am, Sun 9:00 pm–3:00 am. Always follow the hours on your specific event confirmation.
RSVP = your green light:
- First-time guests must RSVP to receive the address and arrival instructions.
- Your confirmation will include door time, last entry, and any night-specific rules (e.g., single-gent policy, phone/camera policy).
Getting there & parking:
- Driving: Expect legal street parking in the immediate area; arrive a little early on high-demand theme nights.
- Transit/rideshare: The Astoria corridor is rideshare-friendly and reachable by subway/bus; plan extra time for late-night returns.
At the door (what staff will check):
- Valid government ID (no exceptions).
- Dress code compliance (baseline Dress to Impress; theme attire encouraged on specialty nights).
- Behavioral standards: consent-first, no harassment, no drugs, and moderation with alcohol (over-drinking can lead to removal).
Payment & mixers:
- Pricing and payment methods can vary by event/promoter—bring both cash and card to avoid hiccups.
- Inside, you’ll find complimentary mixers (soda, water, juices, ice, cups). If you want a specific juice (e.g., grapefruit), you may bring your own; energy drinks are typically sold on site.
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Pro arrival tips for couples:
- Arrive early for smoother check-in and better locker/space options.
- Do a quick boundaries check-in before you walk in (approach/decline scripts, signals).
- Pace your night—events can run to 3–4 am; hydrate between sets.
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