To all my fellow ladies who have trouble finding the best method of self-pleasure: I hear you. It’s always a struggle for a sexually mature woman to pick out the perfect device to help her achieve an orgasm or spice up her sex life. And not because of the stigma surrounding sex toys — it’s still there, but it hasn’t stopped the growth of the industry itself. No, the real issue is the sheer number of products out there.
So, as a frequent user of several different types of sex toys, I’m here to help the girls out. In the paragraphs that follow, I will compile a brief list of the most popular and most frequently used sex toys among modern women.
Toys for External Pleasure
One huge segment of female-centered sex toys revolves around external stimulation. In other words, most of the toys I’m about to list in this section are not used for penetration. Some of the models CAN be used that way, sure, but their intended purpose is to primarily tease body parts that are surface-level.
Wand Vibrators
Out of all the external sex toys for women, wand vibrators are the best-known. These toys come with a massager tip that vibrates at certain speeds. It can stimulate the clitoris, the nipples, and really any other sensitive part of our bodies. Furthermore, lots of women, myself included, use it in tandem with other sex toys, such as dildos.
Bullet Vibes
A typical bullet vibe is roughly the same in function as a wand vibrator but a lot smaller. Thanks to its sleek design and compatibility, it’s the perfect toy for the modern woman. I often carry one of my vibes in my purse, and it hardly takes up any room. In other words, it’s a sex toy that works for women who like to travel, as well as women who don’t need a bulky device to feel good.
Clit Vibes
Once again, we have a machine that works on the principle of vibration and stimulation, but this one is a bit specific. Namely, there’s almost always a section that specifically stimulates the clitoris. Sometimes it’s a little opening; other times, it’s like a tip with bristles. But the purpose remains the same — teasing the clit until the climax. A lot of major brands opt to make these clit vibes stand out. That’s why so many designs of clit vibrators are so sleek and elegantly shaped.
Oral Sex Toys
Now we come to the more obscure, interesting part of this list. An oral sex toy for external pleasure is not, interestingly enough, meant for oral stimulation. In other words, I would not be placing these devices in or near my mouth to get satisfied. Instead, they simulate the movement of the lips and especially the tongue. The stimulating part then comes into contact with the vagina, especially the clitoris area. And while these devices are a little on the unexplored side, they still have a lot to offer.
Toys for Internal Pleasure
Internal pleasure refers to penetration. Teasing the clitoris and the nipples is all fine, but sometimes I need to feel something deeper. Fortunately, the market knows how much women enjoy penetration, so we have another four-part list to go over.
Dildos
A classic and a staple of any adult store, the dildo continues to be the go-to toy for millions of women across the planet. Coming in all shapes and sizes, dildos are great if I need something a bit basic without worrying about wasting battery power or losing it somewhere. And not only is a dildo inexpensive, but it can be quite versatile, capable of entering any orifice.
And speaking of orifices…
Butt Plugs
Smaller than dildos, butt plugs have the sole purpose of stimulating the anus. Their design helps them stay inside of the sphincter without falling out but also prevents them from going deeper in.
While they are also sex toys used for penetration, butt plugs are a bit more passive than dildos. After all, I can simply insert a plug and go about my day. And during masturbation, the woman can stimulate her other body parts while leaving the plug in the rectum altogether.
Vibrating Eggs
Vibrating eggs are small, oval devices that women can insert into their vaginas completely. Thanks to their shape and intensity, the eggs stimulate the woman further. Plus, if I felt like it, I could insert more than one vibrating egg in there for a bit of a boost.
One of the biggest benefits of these so-called “love eggs” is how small and easy to use they are. Another is the fact that I can use the eggs and then go about my day with the devices still in there. Lots of women confess that they go outside without pulling out the egg, just for the thrill.
G-Spot Vibrators
The last, and possibly the most efficient, among the internal pleasure sex toys for women is the G-spot vibrator. Similar to a dildo, but with batteries and a lot of power, a G-spot vibrator can penetrate the vagina and directly tease the G-spot. Similarly to prostrates with men, the female G-spots are by far the most sensitive sections of our anatomy. Therefore, having a device specifically made to tease that section is a dream come true.
The Best of Both Worlds
Now, a bit of clarification. When I say “best of both worlds,” I am referring to two specific things:
- Using several devices simultaneously
- Having a single device that can do both external and internal pleasure at once.
Let’s address the first part. Sure, I can reach orgasm simply through penetration. I can also probably get to one through external stimulation. But some of the best masturbation sessions involve combinations of different toy types. For example, using a dildo for insertion and a wand for clit teasing is almost always going to result in having a good time.
So, what about the second thing, the “hybrid” device?
Well, there is one type of sex toy that can stimulate me both inside and outside, and that’s the rabbit vibrator. Shaped like a pair of bunny ears, this toy can reach the G-spot while also teasing the clitoris. These rabbit vibrators have skyrocketed in popularity ever since the pandemic, and now there are entire websites dedicated to reviewing rabbit vibrators alone. And while it is a splendid toy, I always recommend using it with an additional device to increase pleasure.
A Brief Women’s Sex Toys Summary
So many choices, so little time! The current market for female sex toys is huge, and it isn’t showing signs of stopping any time soon. Hopefully, my guide has provided you with all of the information you’ll need to start considering what type of toy to buy. No matter what you opt for, remember to take it slow at first and then ease into it. Before long, you’ll understand the joy of trying multiple different items that all help you achieve maximum pleasure in bed.
